Working a Croud

Everyone wants to be apart of the group. That cool bunch of people laughing in the center of the room. But how do you get there when you don't know anyone? To get there you will need to

• Build your Confidence
• Make quick friends

Building Confidence
The best place to start is look for those standing alone. Most people standing alone are in the same situation you are, they don't know anyone there and will be grateful you came to say high to them. Any blunders you may make are quickly forgiven or not even realized because you took the time to care about them.

If you are at a singles function and you are a girl make sure it's girls you are approaching. If it's a boy who is standing alone only take the chance if you think he is cute other wise you could be walking into a potential stocker problem.

As you go from one person to the next your confidence will go Because confidence is built by thinking of others and that is what you are doing as you go around talking to people. When your confidence is high it is much easier to approach a group.

Make quick friends
The Fasts way to a persons heart is remembering their name. There name is the most emportent sound to them. Have you ever had the experience of walking down the hall and out of the blue someone calls out your name, it feels great! Remember names and you will have a quick friend.

Don't spend all night with one person or they could become clingy when they see you again. Spend 5min or so with each person then move to the next person. You build small friendships with each person. Every friend you make the better your chances are to getting in the "in crowd"

After you have made your way around to every one alone in the rome more than likely one of those people at the start of the gathering will have made their way into a group conversation and that is an easy ticket in, you know someone in the group.

In groups is where you will find the best friends, your most important contacts, or the parter of a lifetime. Why do you say that, you ask? People in groups have proven two thing, they can talk to people and make quick friends. This is the first step of having good relations with everyone around you.

NOTES

• Make sure you remember their names because friends remember friends names.
• If you don't like to talk listen closely so you can ask good questions that keep them talking.
• If you like to talk make sure you at least catch their name and something they like to do.

I discovered this approach because I am an introvert by nature but Weather you are an introvert or an extrovert this approach is the same.

Tune in next time if you have ever had to struggle with awkward conversations because the other person doesn't like to talk.