What do the good guys and girl look for?
Here is a list of the things attractive people do. It was a basic list put together by Joseph Matthews and was posted on www.sosuave.com. It is a great website for guys looking for ways to improve their dating skills. I did some more research and revised it. I discovered People like Josh Groben, Jason Mraz, Colbie Colliet, Mandy more, Emma Watson, Minka Kelly, Jake Gyllenhaal and Zachary Levi Fallow these guide lines. Fallow and apply these actions into your life and you will have more than enough guys or ladies pursuing you.
Exercise
Exercise each day. It will boosting your mood, improving your weight and health conditions, and will boost energy. All these things can be big factors to attracting the opposite sex and not to mention a healthy happy life.
Consider morning exercise. It can bring out your skin making it look nicer throughout the day. Just make sure to take a shower after you exercise. The basic stretches, sit-ups, push-ups, and walking is a great place to start or you can get into yoga. Stay consistent with the number of repetitions or time walked. As your muscles improve, increase the number of repetitions you do or the time you walk. Walking, jogging, cycling, or running for 30 minutes will work on your stomach, legs, and back. It will also tone your body making it look sharp and sexy.
Switch every day on the muscles you work. Giving your muscles a rest every other day allows them to hill, tone them and strengthen them. You could work your upper body on even days and then work your lower body on the odd days. Sit-ups, and push-ups are upper body exercises. Running and cycling are lower body exercises. Check out exercise work outs at the library, online, or your nearest gym. A good site to go to is http://www.exercise.com/
Eat Healthy
We all know we should avoid the junk food but do you, really? I don’t think I need to make a list of all the unhealthy food. However I will Minchin one that most people may think is good for you; White bread is one of the junk foods. It’s one of the leading causes of weight gain. It’s hard to find truly good wheat breads and they are a little more pricey then white but they are well worth it in the end.
Eat fruits and vegetables, salad, and pastas. Make sure you drink plenty of water or real juice. Empty calories really are not good for you (fats or simple sugars) which contain little nutrition. Look for things that will give you your vitamins, minerals, and fiber. Drink plenty of water. This will improve health and clearness of your skin. Eight cups a day is what doctors suggest. What you eat will eventually show in your hair, skin, nails, teeth, gums, and your gut. Healthy eating also leads to cleaner smelling sweat, Tip for those who have a hard time smelling nice. (This is not a plan to lose weight, it may help if that is a desire of yours, but it is a way of living that does more than attract the person of your dreams, It’s a great way to live.)
Learn to prepare foods. A guy or girl who knows how to cook is very attractive.
Good Hygiene
Smelling good is very important! Shower each morning. Use a deodorant regularly! Use either a fresh scented soap or body wash. Use a deodorant if you cannot take a shower every time you think you are getting smelly. So again, shower daily or more when needed.
When picking a cologne or perfume a lighter scent is normally preferred rather than something that could be too strong. It’s better to not smell at all then to go overboard with too much smell. Over doing it is unattractive almost as bad as not taking a shower. A mild good smell is preferred by most men and women.
Paraphrasing Joseph Matthews he said “When you are sure you found a winner, apply one spray to the chest, and one to the back of the neck just below the hairline to create "spillage," a very light scent trail that lasts for five to ten seconds after you walk through an area.”
Don't smoke. It may seem "cool," but it makes you smell bad, turns teeth yellow, creates a white coating on your tongue, and gives you bad breath. It also affects your long-term health.
Teeth and Breath
Good looking teeth are a BIG dill for most people. Having them white, clean, and strait is vital for a good first impressions. Whitening strips do wonders for good smiles. If you've neglected your teeth for a while it would be a great idea to go to a dentist to get a thorough cleaning and an evaluation of your oral health.
Brushing, flossing, and using ADA-approved mouth rinse daily is not only advised by your dentist, it’s also advised by the guy or girl that you wish to lock lips with. It is suggested to use a medium-bristle toothbrush. Brush every at least 3 minutes every day. Be sure to use low-abrasion toothpaste. Please don’t forget to floss daily. Flossing daily reaches bits of rotting food that a toothbrush simply can't reach. It is so revolting, after you’ve been kissing, to find a peace of food in your mouth that you know you did not eat.
Take mints with you everywhere. Do not use gum, it’s known to be rude to chew gum in public. It’s a good idea to avoid eating things like garlic and onions before a date because this may give you bad breath. In case you end up doing just that, Parsley is great for cleaning up strong breath and will clear bad odors from things like onions.
Hair and Nails
“Maturity is sexy -- and hair is the first signal that says you are more than playtime.”
~ Joseph Matthews ~
Use a good shampoo and conditioner every 2-3 days. You might be able to cut corners and buy an inexpensive shampoo, but you absolutely cannot cut corners on the conditioner. If you have dandruff, use a shampoo and conditioner designed for dandruff.
Some people look good with longer hair and others don’t. Find what looks good on you. If you’re not sure what to get, just get a basic cut or ask a professional hair stylist what to get.
Don't bite your fingernails. Keep them cleaned and trimmed to an appropriate length, use a special nail brush for this. Buffing as well can make them look good. (Guys, Don't use clear nail polish - it looks feminine and some girls are turned off by that. Buffing gives your nails a clean, yet masculine look.) This may sound unnecessary, but always wash your hands.
Skin Care
Clear skin implies good health, and is prized as a universal symbol of attractiveness. Wash your face each morning with a gentle soap and a plastic wash pouf, rinse thoroughly, (guy, most girls like cleanly shaved men, or very little scruff), then wipe your face with a cotton ball soaked in an astringent (either with witch hazel, or hydrogen peroxide), then use a non-comedogenic moisturizer. Make sure to follow the same routine before going to bed, leaving out the moisturizer if you have oily skin. This can also prevent skin aging.
If you have mild acne, try to control it by using an acne medication containing either salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide just after you've wiped your face with toner. Dandelion sap is also a good organic way to get rid of zits. A dab from a stem of it a few times a day will get rid of the pimples. If you have acne that does not respond to the treatments suggested in the previous steps see a Dermatologist.
Tanning is another nice way to look more attractive. Find a good skin tone you are comfortable with. Do not over obsess about tanning. Just get some sun to tan a few times a month. The sun or tanning beds will produce vitamin D which is good for your skin. Like I said don’t over tan or your skin will start looking like leather and old fast and that can not be fixed yet. If you use a tanning bed once a week, max twice a week, tanning should be more then enough to give your skin a fine glow.
Clothing
Read or just look at magazines like GQ, Burberry or Details. Other great places to get ideas for outfits are mall stores like rue21, Buckles, American Eagle Outfitters. All these places will tell you what is in fashion now and will show you how to dress well as far as the latest fashions. The magazines are good at demonstrating how to behave in situations that calls for the clothes they describe. Everything is styled to show many pieces of clothing in one shot, it’s not expected to wear everything seen on one model at one time (though some people do it). After you have some ideas go to Ross or stores like it that are inexpensive to find the outfits you are looking for, it’s cheaper that way.
Don't forget the basics are timeless: For the guys, Solid color polo shirts, plaid shirts, checkered shirts, blue jeans, plain white and black t-shirts (without advertisements or graphic designs), blue blazers, lace-up dress shoes, and white sneakers. You'll always look presentable.
As for the ladies outfits, the style for ladies changes quite dramatically it’s hard to point out things that are always in fashion. So here are a few great sites that help you keep up to date: http://www.eddiebauer.com, http://www.collegefashion.net, and http://www.rue21.com.ask your friends for advice and even ask workers at any fashion store like ones mentioned. They would be more than happy to pick out outfits that will look stunning on you.
Joseph Matthews says “Don't wear any clothes that have advertisements unless you are honestly a fan of that product, etc. For example, don't wear a Harley Davidson t shirt if you don't own a Harley Davidson motorcycle, you'll look like a poser. Try a polo shirt, and a clean pair of somewhat loose jeans. Baggy is a big turn off or too tight. Also, keep your clothes clean. Girls tend not to like a guy who wears a filthy, tattered shirt and baggy, dirt-encrusted jeans. Just be sure it's comfortable for you or else she'll pick up on your discomfort and think it's her.”
Dark clothes will help you look a little thinner. Remember to wear clothing which fits well. If you can afford it get your clothes tailored to you or learn to tailor them yourself if you have a sowing machine. Clothes a size too small do not make you look thinner, but the opposite. You don't have to go spending hundreds of dollars on the latest and greatest styles. A nice shirt and a clean pair of jeans is more than enough.
Posture
Having a good posture will make you look confident. Everyone is attracted to some level of confidence. Confidence is caring. Stand up straight! If you need some help, pretend that someone has just poured ice cold water down your back. Just the thought of that happening will make any one stand up straight. Sometimes it’s only a 30 degree deferens that makes you look boring to stimulating.
Personality
Respect: Each person is special; go out of your way to make them feel that way. Be a gentleman. If you are breaking up with some one, do NOT try to hurt them. She or he will tell their friends, and they will tell their friends. Never seek vengeance. Vengeance shows others that they shouldn't trust you. Be sweet, sensitive, and listen. (Guys, don’t treat girls like you would a guy.) Remember, people have their own minds. They have their own thoughts, opinions, and ideals. Don't be confrontational. I have seen a few people out there that think a conversation is a debate. A lot of people do not like debates. For those who don’t know they are debating ask yourself : Do I question or like to make people question what they say? If so it’s considered rude if done too much. I’m not saying it is bad all the time, it’s always nice to teas and prod a little. Be aware of how the person is responding. If they are raising their voice a little they are getting frustrated and you need to change the way you respond to them or change topics completely. Do not act better than anyone else. Treat everyone as an equal and don’t be annoying, this will go a long way.
Social. This may be hard for a lot of you but show that you are a socially accepted try not to be the quiet guy who runs off in the corner. If they realize that everyone else likes you, they will feel obliged also and will raise your level of attraction. Learn more about how to be more social and confident in coming posts. A tip is always be talking to someone, it doesn’t really matter who you are talking to. Move around the room, don’t talk to the same person all night, endless your talking to the girl of your dreams and even then you should leave the conversation earlier then it feels comfortable to so to leave her wanting more of you later.
Style: Always strive to be of great style, good taste in conversation, studies, love, admiration, charisma, and genius. People will love you for it. A great book that helps with this is a book called “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie. You will also learn more about this topic in chapter 4. Be genuinely interested in other people. Talk about something interesting or funny, they love people who have a sense of humor and are funny! You want them to laugh with you and not at you. Though if a moment comes when they are laughing at you it is very important to see it from there point of view and learn to laugh with them. This creates style knowing how to turn a bad moment into a good one by seeing it always from the happy person’s perspective in the room. Speak clearly and confidently. Don't mumble. When you speak low and muffled, people will assume the worst (your too shy, you don’t have something good to say.)
Mysterious; It makes them wonder about you. It keeps them thinking about you. This, after all, is what gets them interested. To be mysterious you don’t talk much about yourself. You ask question and listen. When a question is asked you answer it in only a paragraph or two and then pose the question back or ask another question. Don’t give away everything you know about any topic. Keep what you say under a minute. You’ll lose attention in 30 seconds any way. Try to be the one that leaves the conversation first, it shows dominants and that you have other things to do. Shy people are better at this then someone who has a hard time letting other people talk.
Good mannered; Good etiquette will go a long way for attracting the opposite sex. Guys that means; opening doors, pulling out chairs, letting the girls go first, etc. Ladies this means; wait for the man to open the door, or pull out chairs, no belching, biting nails, excessively playing with your jewelry, texting and answering phone calls while you’re on a date, ect. Don't swear and make crude comments. It makes you look immature.
Try to learn as much knowledge you can. Always be grateful for advice that friends, girls, guys, family, rivals and other people's point of view. You do not have to fallow anything people tell you but you should at least show them gratitude and respect even if you already knew it or if you think it was really stupid advice. This will give you respect and admirers. Ask for feedback: Be aware that you may get conflicting feedback, especially with things such as clothing styles, and hairstyles. Work their opinions into your style. Choose what makes you feel the most confident. And always remember you will become more like who you take advice from. If they really are not the type of person you want to be, you’re listening to the wrong person and you’re going the wrong way.
Have a job or be going to school. Women like to know that men can be a provider and not a moocher. And Men like to see women that can be independent from their parents. More often than not, she will not be after your money, but would feel more confident in opening up to someone who is able to take care of himself first.
Lifestyle: keep a clean house. If your house is a mess, he or she will notice. It is not a matter of how big or small your house is. If you cannot take care of yourself then you’ll have a very hard time taking care of anyone else.
Smile: strong eye contact and a warm smile set the feel of the night. You control how the night feels. Smiles are contagious; therefore he or she will most likely smile back. Smiling brings a warm feel and eye contact shares your true intent and you can see theirs. If he or she doesn’t smile back it’s a sign they are not comfortable. Be respectful as possible and try to learn what is preventing them from enjoying themselves.
