Welcome to the site. This blog will feacher a few questions that where asked in a few dating clubs I'm a part of. Friends of mine and I will answer them to the best of our knowledge with the help of a little research.
Basics dating advice
I need some good advice. So I haven't dated much over the last 3 years because of school, and working a lot. I now want to get into the dating scene and I realized that I suck at dating. I mean I am good at the cute dates and havingfun, but I struggle with the timing of when to call or text the girl again and trying not to seem like I am annoying. I just care... Any advice or help would be awesome!!!
~Adam Young~
Zach C Myler (guy)
Oh my...I totally know what you mean! This is probably a question better answered by the girls but for me I've tried to stop worrying about what the girl is going to think and just do what I want to do. If I want to send a text I will, if I want to call I will, and if it bugs her then it's probably best to move on cuz she's probably not that into you...ha ha. I do think there is a point that can be reached that is annoying but unless you're crazy I think that point is hard to reach. Good luck!
Melissa Dunning (girl)
I agree with Zach...if a girl is really into you, you will never seem annoying.It's important for girl's to know they are being thought of THROUGHOUT your day. Positive attention thru texting even without the expectation of a reply is sweet, something like "Hey, I was just thinking about you. Hope your day is going good!" Totally golden! :) Hopefully that helps?
Miryelle Resek (girl)
I hate games. In my opinion, if you like her, text her right after the date. With the whole annoying thing... I think the only difference between a girl finding the extra attention flattering versus stalkerish is whether she likes you back. I think Zach's right, if it bugs her then she's probably not for you. But make sure you're not suffocating her at the start. (e.i. I had a friend who had this guy who would text her a ton, to the point where she didn't even have time to respond back without getting a text that said things like, where are you? Why haven't you responded? What are you doing? Freaken obsessive, especially at work.) I think that once you've kinda started going on more dates with the girl the things what Melissa said are for sure cute.
J.T. Rogers (guy)
If you think you are starting to be a little annoying with your text and calls then you probably are and you need to cool it down. If you want to be technical, normally you should not text more than twice at a time between responses. Waiting a little while after a response is also good for the relationship because it shows you’re not desperate and makes her want your response a little more just like you waiting for the response from her makesyou a little anxious. You should respond in the same timely manner as she does. If it takes her a while to respond to you then you need to take a little time before you respond. She sets the mood when it comes to texting. If she is not into you she will take her time to respond every time or won’t respond at all.
Manny (Girl)
Going to your first date without expectations can be a good thing. Expectations mightruin every dating experience you have so don’t expect too much. Girls, don’t lift afinger in the beginning; let him call you first, text you first, ask you outfirst. You need to play a little hard to get for two reasons (1.) You shouldsee if he really wants to be more then friends, and (2.) Because a little hardto get makes you worth it and you become more attractive to him.
First date advice
I found this great list on topdatingtips.com
1. Always try to look your best for a date.
2. Enjoy yourself on the date, it's mint to be fun
3. Compliment your date on how he or she looks; they worked hard to look good for you.
4. Tell them up front if you’re not interested in seeing them again. Any other way is rude.
5. Stay positive even when dates end badly.
6. Plan ahead to create a good dating experience.
7. Surround yourself with positive,like-minded people who are dating, too. Part of the fun of dating is celebrating, comparing notes and commiserating with your friends.
1. Don’t text someone more than once a day if you just started seeing them.
2. Don’t be late for the date, bad first impression.
3. Don’t lie about your life to make it more exiting. It will destroy the relationship in the future.
4. Don't be too available. We don't mean you should play games, but if you're free every night, you're probably not taking care of yourself, pursuing your own interests and spending time with your friends (which means you're probably not very interesting to talk to. People with full, exciting lives make the best dates.)
5. Don’t tell everything about yourself at the beginning. Telling innermost personal information even on the second date can lead to rejection.
6. Don’t check out other people while on your date.
7. Don’t get drunk on a date.
8. Don’t have sex on the first date. It gives the impression that you want the other person more for their body then for who they really are.
9. Don't ignore your personal safety. Carry your cell phone and keep it charged -- and make sure to tell your friends where you're going and when you'll be back. First dates should take place in well-lit public places. Don't ever let yourself be coerced into going anywhereor doing anything that makes you uncomfortable.
10. And never date someone who is married.
First Date, First boyfriend help
I've known this guy for over a year. I've fancied him for a few months now and we have been flirting a lot. A week ago he asked me out and we will be going out again today. I have butterflies all the time :) I want to know if it would be ok to kiss him. And anyother tips on controlling my nerves (because I'm clueless about dates) Just anyfirst date advice is appreciated.
~Melisa Gray~
CuteGirl (Girl)
Dress nice, be nice, be polite and talk about the things he likes. Smile when you see him and don't forget to say hi.
Jorden K (Guy)
First dates are all about just getting to know the other person. Talk about your families, your hobbies, and your friends. See if you two have similarinterests. You don’t have to kiss him. In fact I would advise that you don't.You don't want to move too fast or give him the wrong idea. Maybe a kiss on the cheek would be good.
Jenny (girl)
Girls can kiss guys without asking but guys may need to ask depending on the girl. Follow your instincts. It’s all up to you and how you feel about it. If you think it is right, then do it. Just be yourself and everything else will fall into place.
J.T. Rogers (Guy)
A relationship is like a down hill rode and you’re in a car with horrible brakes. Where you end the night before is where you'll start off the next day. Decide now where you want the relationship to go and where you want it to stay so you have time to slow it down when you get close. When you’re caught up in the moment there is no time to think, thinking is the last thing you will feel like doing.
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